No, YOU ARE NOT A BAD MOM.....sm

Please do not berate yourself.  If I were you, and I'm not you....next birthday for anyone, I'd make myself forget and with NO GUILT.  In order for them to turn it around, you have to give it back to them.......by example.  Obviously, it seems evident to me that you put yourself last in your family....makes you a good mom, that...in and of itself.

Next birthday or holiday that isn't yours but is someone else's in the family?  Conveniently forget....is my suggestion to you.

Sometimes you have to fight fire with more fire.  Sometimes we, as moms, have to SET AN EXAMPLE in an opposite direction.  Your wonderful giving examples of giving obviously didn't work.  But don't condemn yourself.  You can only lead a horse to water, you cannot make them drink it.

Happy Mother's Day to you!!!  It's not a fake holiday...I was saying yesterday EVERYDAY should be Mother's Day...instead of CHILDREN'S Day.  *lol*

Be well and don't put yourself down.  *hugs*

• My mother's day - chopped liver
  • Mothers day - sme
  • I think it is enough if you kids at least acknowledge the day - sm - Laura E.
  • To chopped liver, read all of the thread, - mthanded
  • I think you have to define Mother's Day for yourself... - Jillian
  • I didn't have a great one either. - I am sorry!!
  • Both of my children told me Happy Mother's - Wannie
  • Mother's Day - MTqueenB
    • Kind of ashamed to admit I threw daughter's card away - chopped liver
      • I think that grandparents who babysit for free are just making their kids dependent on them - and they seldom appreciate it, they grow to expect
  • i know that hurts but here are a few thoughts.... - kat
  • Mother's Day is not a Hallmark holiday (sm) - chopped liver
    • Yep, but MT week IS. and i bet people complain if they arent recognized. :( - nm
  • Lucky Ones - IC
    • I had a fabulous weekend starting with dinner on Friday night..sm - Very lucky also
    • I also know how you feel! sm - Deb
  • I'd give the kids the same treatment on their birthday....sm - Just me
    • That's unfair. Everyone has a B-Day, but Mother's Day is made up. Ditto for Valentine's Day - R
  • I would be hurt too (sm) - anony
  • Great M's Day -- no kids, no husband (sm) - adh
  • i know how you feel - tc
  • Yep - I agree - your kids should know better... - Maybe you didn't push enough guilt over time..
    • I think you sound self absorbed to feel you deserve gifts. Being a mother is selfless. nm - R
      • don't attack her re self absorbed....sm - kids understand DEALS AND CONTRACTS
      • I'm not self-absorbed at all - chopped liver
        • You say you're at the bottom of the totem pole - QA
          • Dr. Phil??? Grolier book publishers....sm - put those books out 25+ years ago.....
          • You are right. Thank you. - chopped liver
            • BTW, just FYI, my kids are a tad older...sm - put those books out 25+ years ago.....
            • Might I add that I speak from the heart, - QA
    • oops should've have read "older children"...n/m - Maybe you didn't push enough guilt over time..
  • I don't celebrate Hallmark holidays. If they forget...(nt) - ...your birthday then you should complain.
    • Glad I'm not the only anti-Hallmark holiday (sm) - adh
    • They don't acknowledge that either - chopped liver
      • Again, if you make yourself a slave to them they will never respect you. - Tell her to pay for a babysitter
      • No, YOU ARE NOT A BAD MOM.....sm - Maybe you didn't push enough guilt over time..
  • What I'm doing is making sure that come Fathers Day, I forget to get him something! sm - Anudder mudder
    • You show people how to treat you. We don't - me
      • I make a big deal out of them too and still dont get squat. sm - nm
  • Me too.... - Disgruntled mother...
    • They're ignorant - some hubbies...sm - Maybe you didn't push enough guilt over time..
  • I feel for you, your kids should know better. sm - ml
    • EXACTLY !!!!! GMTA.......sm - Maybe you didn't push enough guilt over time..

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